I love kissing--doing it, reading about it, thinking about it, watching it. I have A Lot of feelings about kissing (and mouths in general) so if you really wanna hear 'em...
Part of my love of kissing is probably because I have something of an oral fixation. I used to smoke, still miss it desperately. I have a questionably-healthy relationship with food/eating. I don't really grind my teeth, but I click them a lot and chew my lips. I touch my mouth a lot if I'm not thinking about it (one of the few bad habits I've tried to break because GERMS). I'm what dentists call a tongue thruster (linked so you don't have to look up something that might bring up unpleasant results). Etc., etc., you get the idea. I don't know if my mouth/lips/tongue are naturally extra-sensitive or if I've psychologically sensitized them. It amounts to the same thing, really, so dunno if it matters.
Basically my mouth is a major erogenous zone, and when I'm aroused (or am around someone I'm attracted to) that area gets...idk, tingly? and sensitive (I'm using that word a lot, sorry) like erectile tissue. So mashing my lips and tongue against someone else's lips and tongue is hugely enjoyable, as is exploring other parts of their body with lips and tongue. I know it's a cliche to say "ached to kiss" but seriously, my lips and tongue have actually hurt from my wanting to kiss someone so much. Not like accidentally biting it pain, more like delayed onset muscle soreness (if that makes sense, idk I'm reaching for metaphors here). I agree with yantantether that it definitely does feel like part of sex. I mean, with deep kissing, you are, technically inside the other person and that's incredibly hot to me.
So that's the physiological side of it, but I also like the emotional aspect. It's a form of sexual intimacy that's (generally) safer for someone who's just playing around. I'm not a terribly romantic person and although I love stories about (real and fictional) people who are deeply in love, that's just...not where I live. So kissing provides an outlet for sexual expression that I might not be able to indulge without a ton of discussion/negotiation/engagement. Some friends of mine who share this tendency came up with the term "sport kissing" to describe it (we're most of us former theater nerds and/or RenFest workers and I think this sort of casual sexuality is pretty common among those demographics).
Kissing is also incredibly visually appealing to me. I love watching people (who are good at it) kiss. From what I've seen, Bai Yu is very good at it. =D
I hope this helps you understand why at least one person loves kissing so much. This is such an interesting discussion and I hope more people weigh in. Actually, I'd like to copypasta my comment into a post on my on journal since this is a locked post. Would you mind?
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Date: 2019-10-14 02:10 pm (UTC)Part of my love of kissing is probably because I have something of an oral fixation. I used to smoke, still miss it desperately. I have a questionably-healthy relationship with food/eating. I don't really grind my teeth, but I click them a lot and chew my lips. I touch my mouth a lot if I'm not thinking about it (one of the few bad habits I've tried to break because GERMS). I'm what dentists call a tongue thruster (linked so you don't have to look up something that might bring up unpleasant results). Etc., etc., you get the idea. I don't know if my mouth/lips/tongue are naturally extra-sensitive or if I've psychologically sensitized them. It amounts to the same thing, really, so dunno if it matters.
Basically my mouth is a major erogenous zone, and when I'm aroused (or am around someone I'm attracted to) that area gets...idk, tingly? and sensitive (I'm using that word a lot, sorry) like erectile tissue. So mashing my lips and tongue against someone else's lips and tongue is hugely enjoyable, as is exploring other parts of their body with lips and tongue. I know it's a cliche to say "ached to kiss" but seriously, my lips and tongue have actually hurt from my wanting to kiss someone so much. Not like accidentally biting it pain, more like delayed onset muscle soreness (if that makes sense, idk I'm reaching for metaphors here). I agree with
So that's the physiological side of it, but I also like the emotional aspect. It's a form of sexual intimacy that's (generally) safer for someone who's just playing around. I'm not a terribly romantic person and although I love stories about (real and fictional) people who are deeply in love, that's just...not where I live. So kissing provides an outlet for sexual expression that I might not be able to indulge without a ton of discussion/negotiation/engagement. Some friends of mine who share this tendency came up with the term "sport kissing" to describe it (we're most of us former theater nerds and/or RenFest workers and I think this sort of casual sexuality is pretty common among those demographics).
Kissing is also incredibly visually appealing to me. I love watching people (who are good at it) kiss. From what I've seen, Bai Yu is very good at it. =D
I hope this helps you understand why at least one person loves kissing so much. This is such an interesting discussion and I hope more people weigh in. Actually, I'd like to copypasta my comment into a post on my on journal since this is a locked post. Would you mind?