I for one have never felt very strongly about his relationships with anyone other than Da Qing and Shen Wei (both of whom don't really behave normally around him, and who were bound to him because of what happened 10 000 years ago), which is why I feel he's not that good at doing long-term, either (or maybe he just doesn't want to, idk). Imo, he definitely could have dealt with Zhu Hong better; and his rather bratty responses to his father only seem to egg the guy on - he ought to have acted more indifferent, cos most Asian parents are very judgemental, including my own, and I (and a lot of other kids like me) have found that the best way to deal with them is to not rise to the provocation until they get tired of blaming and nagging ;D

But then again, taking his age in the show to be 28 means he's only 1 year older than me, so I'm probably comparing us a bit too much. I'm excellent at reading people, myself, but I use that ability to make peace with everyone asap for the sake of my own peace of mind, which isn't something you can expect from a guy, especially not one with a fighting spirit like Yun Lan's!